Are you a happy husband or are you “Bob” the miserable bastard?
If you’re like me, you’re probably both.
I typically find myself at both ends of the spectrum — but at least I’m being honest.
You’ve heard the saying before, “Happy wife, happy life” right?
I think that’s a two way street … an unhappy husband isn’t an ideal husband. In fact, he can be a huge asshole at times.
That’s how you turn an otherwise happy wife into an unbearable female dog.
It’s in your best interest to be a happy husband.
I’m not saying it’s always going to be easy. But a study in genuine happiness is worth your time and effort because it will make you a better husband.
You and I both know it’s easy to be happy when there ain’t no thunderstorms around.
But when the clouds get dark and the rain starts to pour, well … that’s the moment of truth, isn’t it?
The challenge with happiness is that it can be fleeting. It doesn’t take much for something to get us down or to change our attitude in a negative way.
For instance, I just found out that one of my client’s wire transfer didn’t come through. This is the second failed attempt.
So now they’re going to write me a check and my bank told me it’s going to take up to two months for the funds to be available because it’s an international wire.
Damn it! I could use that money. Why does this always happen to me? … Were my initial thoughts.
It’s frustrating when things don’t always go according to plan, but should you let that steal away your happiness?
Here are four Happy Husband Hacks that I use when I’m feeling a bit down, frustrated, and against the ropes; here’s what I do:
Find fulfillment. Whenever I’m feeling trapped or unsatisfied with a life circumstance, I look for the quickest (and healthiest) form of fulfillment I can get. For me, it’s writing. When I write, I feel fulfilled. When I don’t, I feel like a derelict. For you it might be playing the guitar, or going fishing, or taking a jog. Whatever it is, make sure it gives you an instant sense of fulfillment, a genuine release of built up negative tension.
Renew purpose. I take a quick look at my Husbandly Creed (my mission statement as a husband) to give myself a reminder that says DON’T START SHOVELING YOUR PERSONAL CRAP ONTO YOUR WIFE. This keeps me grounded in my purpose as a husband, regardless of the external circumstance.
Revisit respect. This is all about getting back to basics. As husbands we crave respect from our wives, but we don’t always earn it from them. When I’m not happy with whatever is going on in my life, I resolve to be extra respectful toward her. Or my wife will enforce this for me.
Seek service. “Hey honey, how can I help?” It’s as easy as that. Or better yet, take the initiative to be of service. This is always gives me a sense of instant gratification and it makes me happy to help out my wife, to be of service.
Can you manufacture happiness on demand? Sure … I just showed you how.
A good husband knows that he is responsible for his own genuine happiness. He makes conscious decisions to create and sustain it, even in the face of darkness.
I’m a naturally happy guy and I think this has a net positive impact on my wife. But every once in a while, life kicks you in the teeth.
But a happy husband smiles anyway.
From one husband to another,