It’s Monday morning. You get settled into your car to head off to work (where you have a forty minute commute ahead of you) and you think to yourself, “Man I wish it were Friday. I’m not ready to start the week right now.”
Reluctant, stressed, and full of anxiety, you start your week the exact same way you started the last.
Sadly, many people submit to the nine-to-five, daily grind mentality. It’s no wonder that men and women end up getting bored with each as the years pass by.
The daily grind is just that … a grind. It doesn’t stop and for most of us, it doesn’t change. It can be unforgiving and sometimes unrewarding.
And if you find yourself bored and unfulfilled with what you are doing now, it wouldn’t be unreasonable to assume that the monotony in your personal life has already jumped over to your marriage.
So from one husband to another, here are some tools and tricks that you can use to mix things up a bit, personally and in your relationship with your wife:
Get an interesting and exciting hobby. Find something that you’ve always been interested in doing, but have never taken the time to learn. Playing guitar, grilling, going out to the gun range (or archery), or something like making your own beer. You get the idea. Do something you will enjoy and that will bring a little bit of excitement into your life.
Take mini vacations. When’s the last time you discovered a new city that you’ve never been to before? Las Vegas is great place to go for this. For the very reason they advertise it: What happens there is supposed to stay there. Of course everybody is different, but make it a point to go discover new places. It’s fun.
Be spontaneous. Take those little opportunities to be spontaneous. Last night, my wife and I went out with a couple of friends. We ate at a hip little restaurant, not too far from where we live. It was fun. Later we all decided to go to a bar in downtown, play some pool and have more drinks … on a Sunday night when we have work the next day. None of it was planned and we could have easily decided to tell ourselves “It’s late and we should be getting home.”
Enjoy the benefits physical exercise. Nothing beats a good workout. I personally can’t stand going to the gym and lifting weights, but I do like to swim. Try different workouts and exercises that suit your interests. If you can mix fun and exercise with your regimen, you’re golden.
Learn to be extreme. If you want some lasting excitement in your life that will reinvigorate your mind and total outlook, sometimes you have to be extreme. Jump out of an airplane, go rent your dream car for a day, or maybe stay at one of the ritziest hotels in your area. Whatever you do, make it memorable.
Each one of the tips above has the ability to enhance your personal life and your marriage. They are all a form of therapy in their own right.
Between the monotony of work and family, keeping life interesting is a challenge within itself. Staying energized and enthusiastic about the direction your life is taking gets harder as you push forward.
Yes, domestic life as a husband can be scary, particularly because it can be boring. But it doesn’t have to be.
If you’re vigilant about keeping the excitement and sense of fulfillment, as a husband, and as a man, it won’t be long before you find yourself riding a motorcycle around a racetrack, or jumping out of an airplane.
You deserve some excitement in your life.
From one husband to another,