I try to get my wife to do this at least once a day. It’s a super quick way for me to reconnect with her … and it feels really good.
In terms of priority, I put it way on top of the list. That’s how important I think it is for my marriage, and my wife’s happiness.
And just in case you’re wondering … it’s not sex.
Reasons why every husband should be able to get his wife to laugh.
I’ve found that laughter is the perfect barometer of happiness in my marriage – and the greatest expression of happiness there is.
Having the skill to make your wife experience an intense moment of happiness, through laughter – even if it’s only for ten seconds – is a fantastic way to create a positive experience in your day-to-day interactions with your wife. (Remember the 5:1 ratio?)
Laughter is also a great coping mechanism for when life isn’t all rosy and wonderful, as we’d like. Psychoanalyst Martin Grotjahn, author of Beyond Laughter, agrees with me …
"To have a sense of humor is to have an understanding of human suffering."
So even when things in your relationship may get a bit rocky, both you and your wife can still turn to laughter to cushion the blow.
Plus numerous studies show that laughter really is one of the best medicines.
It’s been known to lower blood pressure, increase cardio-vascular health, boost T-cells and it produces a general sense of well being. And modern research indicates that people with a sense of humor have fewer symptoms of physical illness than those who are less humorous.
"We cannot really love anybody with whom we never laugh."
Both my wife and I use laughter in our marriage on a regular basis.
One time my wife used a drunken moment of mine – where I lost my thick framed glasses out the passenger side window of our car – in an improv comedy skit.
She performed it in front of an entire audience!
Now this could have easily embarrassed me, but I have a sense of humor and it was a hilarious.
When we went out for drinks after the show, audience members were coming up to me saying, “So you must be the drunken husband?”
Indeed I was.
Laugh your way to a happy relationship.
I can’t imagine not being able to make my wife laugh. Whether it’s at me or with me.
Maybe it’s because I’m a generally happy person. It doesn’t really matter.
What matters is that you recognize the value of laughter in your relationship. Because if I you can’t get your wife to laugh, or you don’t want to even try, that doesn’t bode well for your relationship.
Like I said before, laughter is a great barometer for the level of happiness both you and your wife share in the marriage. It’s also an effective relationship tool. Use it.
Go to comedy shows if you can. Watch funny movies. Look for jokes on the Internet and send them to your wife.
Find silly ways to make your wife laugh every day.
From one husband to another,
PS Here’s something you can do that will sharpen your ability to make your wife laugh more often (I personally use this every day in public): The next stranger you find yourself in a conversation with, try to make them laugh (or at least crack a big smile) within the first 15 seconds of your conversation.
You might “eat shit” as stand up comedians would say, but at least you tried.
I’ve been using this tactic for the past five years of my life. And I can talk to anybody I want to in almost any social setting I find myself in.