Polygamy is taboo for most of the Western world.
Yet, I have always found it fascinating that a man can maintain a working marriage with more than one woman.
Heck, most of us have trouble with one wife, but if the guy is up to the task, I’m not quite sure I understand why polygamy is frowned upon – and to a more serious extent, criminalized.
If a man wants to marry three women, why can’t he? Really, what’s the big deal?
Any man that can take on the responsibilities that a monogamist husband does, and then multiply the magnitude of those responsibilities by two or three – or even more in some cases – I’d be happy to take some advice from.
Not to build my harem, but to find out how the hell he does it.
Is he a genius or has he gone bonkers?
I watched a show on Netflix (I’m sure you’ve heard of it) with my wife a couple of months ago called Sister Wives.
At first I was like, “This guy is nuts.”
Then after watching a couple of episodes, I said to myself, “This guy is a genius husband.”
Seriously, he ends up with three wives and a busload of children – all by choice.
It’s a reality TV show, so I was a bit skeptical as to the authenticity of what I was watching.
But there are polygamists living in the real (untelevised) world willing and able to build and maintain working relationships with multiple women.
I imagine that some relationships don’t work out and others do, but they don’t always work out for monogamous relationships either.
Neither do they in deeply religious centered marriages or even with couples who choose to co-habitat instead of formally getting married. (Technically there is only one wife who is legally married on the Sister Wives show).
It doesn’t matter.
The way I see it is that any man who can sustain a successful and happy marriage with multiple wives is both a genius and, yes … a little bonkers.
Quantity vs. quality: Lesson to be learned from a polygamist.
Throughout Sister Wives, Kody, the husband, claims that he has enough love to spread around.
And by God, he would need it – and it certainly seems like he has it. He also has patience, an overall positive outlook, great family values in place, and loads of energy.
But imagine what his relationship would be like if he concentrated all of that “love” toward one wife. I can’t help but think that it would be deeper and more meaningful than spreading his love around to three other woman.
It makes you wonder if the guy is spreading himself too thin.
On television he seems to have wonderful working relationships with his wives; that come with conventional (and some not so conventional) marital challenges.
Whether he’s spreading himself too thin or not, monogamists can learn a thing or two when it comes to their own marriage.
I know I am. I’m learning to shoot for maximum quality in my relationship with my wife.
For me (and most likely you as well) the best approach for a long-term happy and harmonious marriage means focusing all of the time, energy, and resources that I can spare.
That being said, one wife is more than enough for me.
From one husband to another,